Being natural, there are levels to this Ish”, was the tagline of a recent conversation had by a Butterfly that I’ll name Olivia Curls. She was professing to me the epiphany she had once she finally accepted her natural hair. As I sat listening to her speak, I was prompted by my good sense to pull out my iPhone and capture key notes. As Olivia Curls spoke the realness about the steps she had to take to be natural, I learned there are levels to this Ish…
In Olivia Curls voice:
It was a no brainer that relaxers were not good for me. I’d returned back to my natural hair, but continued to use heavy amounts of heat via flat ironing and blow drying. I felt like keeping relaxers out of my hair was great but I still wanted to conform to the ideas that my hair was manageable and fitting to societal standards. I knew in order to truly have healthy hair; I had to get past my idea that my hair had to be bone straight. I had to become comfortable embracing styles, managing, and rocking my hair. Which brings me to my point; there are levels to this ish. Naturals who return back to their hair have to realize you may have to crawl before you walk (i.e Levels to this Ish). In order to get to the point I am currently with myself and my hair, I had to do the following:
Remove relaxed hair
Be comfortable with no heat
Find confidence in my own hair and not weave
Find comfort in styling AND seeing my hair in its natural form
I don’t claim to be totally past #4, but I’m working on it. I’m rocking more styles consistent with my actual hair texture and not the one wish I had. All I can tell you is, there are levels to this ish, and it won’t happen overnight but when it does, it can attribute to growing your inner self and beauty. So my question to you is this: Have you really exposed yourself to being a natural? Or just sticking the tip in? Cause you know, there are levels to this ish.
Signed: Olivia Curls
When I tell you I got off the phone with half of this post already written. I took serious dissertation while talking to this Butterfly. I think she made some factual point and it made me wonder how long did it take you and your hair to click? How may levels to this ish did you take for this to happen?
Diana (Head Curl in Charge)