As the seasons begin to change like clockwork, we approach the 4th and final quarter of the year, and we reflect on the year that seems to have FLOWN by, I feel it’s a great time to revisit the goals we set forth at the turn of the new year. Have we wavered, changed courses, stuck to the plan, or did we totally give up? If you missed our Butterfly New Year’s Resolutions check out 2013 Butterfly Resolutions: Not Your Average List. Below we will discuss some of those resolutions and the importance they still play in our lovely curly lives.
1. Be More Positive–about EVERYTHING!
So the year has likely brought on some unexpected events–some things that simply were not written in your plan book. But that’s life, right?! Take the good with the bad, and do your best to see some type of good in every adverse situation. If, at this point, you’re able to remember AND still talk about it, it obviously wasn’t that bad and you’ve done a great job at handling it and getting over the hump that was presented. Stay positive–life is designed to have its ups and downs, but remaining positive will help us to overcome every adverse situation we are faced with–ALWAYS!
2. Drink More Water
If you’ve done so, you’ve probably seen improvements in the quality of your hair and its level of hydration. If you’re on a quest to live a healthy lifestyle like myself, you’ve noticed those empty calories you’ve been able to rid yourself of and you’ve probably shed a few pounds, too If this hasn’t been your focus this year, then it’s not too late. Grab a friend, create a challenge, and drink up. Get creative, make a plan, stick to it, have fun, and guzzle on! Your body, skin, and hair will thank you.
3. Trade in your hair envy and upgrade to hair encouragement
There have been several posts about hair envy, loving your hair, and topics of the sort on the site within the past year like Those Are Words I Don’t Like: Natural Hair Envy, The Secret to Loving Your Natural Hair, and I Love My Natural Hair! SistersWithBeauty encourages each butterfly on her journey to love and embrace her curls, kinks, and waves as they come and to never let anyone own you, your thoughts, or your self-perception. I still see much talk within the natural community of hair crushes and various obsessions with others’ hair, but I never have and never will condone such behavior. Be encouraged by, love in spite of, and embrace uncontrollably YOUR hair journey and all that it entails.
4. Take hair breaks
Yes, yes, yes…we know…you love your hair and you’re not afraid to show it, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t sometimes need a break. SWB presented a protective style challenge that encouraged followers to keep their fro flexing to a minimum and incorporate weeks of protective styling–how awesome is that? Hair, just like anything else, if manipulated too much, will change, and our hair changes in an unfavorable way. I encouraged hair breaks in January, and I encourage them now. The health of your hair will improve, you’ll save time before heading out for the day, and you’ll be pleasantly delighted to know that there’s more to natural hair than plain puffs and typical twistouts.
5. Do what truly makes you happy
This is and will always be at the top of my list of priorities. Yes, I said it–PRIORITIES. Being happy and doing those things which yield those results are critical. Joy is something the world can’t take away, but happiness is certainly a choice. You can choose to live with it and in it or choose to live without it. You may have found yourself dibbling and dabbling in things that seemed like the right thing to do, the most lucrative thing to do, or the easiest route to take, but you perhaps have found that this course of action didn’t make you HAPPY. This is the time to ask yourself if the journeys you’ve intentionally embarked on made you happy and if they didn’t, I say reevaluate, regroup, and try something else. Figure out your passion and your purpose and run with it! Don’t worry about the money or maintaining an image–just do it and know that everything else will fall into place. Remember that happy people love and love is you
After reading this, you may have found that some of the resolutions you set forth for yourself this year went by the wayside, but it’s ok! Find yourself where you are in this very moment and get back on track. Although we can’t get time back, we can always make the best use of the time we have left. Every day is a new day, a new beginning, and with that comes brand new grace and mercy–bask in that which is granted to you and create an awesome end to your 2013.
Apryl-joi, Resident Blogger
Be Bold. Be Fierce. Be JOIous. Be You.